Does anyone else notice yourself becoming more like your spouse?
I do.
and it slightly worries me.
I also see Jason becoming more like me, which also worries me. Jason is a really shy timid person, and I am quite the opposite, at least I used to be. Since we got married I have become more reserved and shy. It worried me when the other day we went to a ward softball activity, and the only person I really talked to the whole time was Jason. It made me feel worse when Jason pointed out that I was being shy.
I am not a shy person, at least I didn't use to be.
I know that when you get married, you learn and grow together, evolve into better people, but how do you keep from losing certain qualities that make up who you are?
advice?
3 comments:
You noticing the change is the biggest step. Now you just have to find little ways to practise your old outgoing ways. Make it a goal! I've always been a bit of a book worm, but I don't read nearly as much anymore. Thus I have a new goal to set aside time each week to catch up on my reading. Turns out Eric likes to hear me ramble on about what's happening in my books. An added bonus is that it gives him time to get back to some of his hobbies.
That's why you need to keep your own interests. Find something to do for fun that's just you (maybe with some friends ;) ) and you'll have a new experience to talk about and something that will make you YOU, not just Kati and Jason.
It worked for me when I took belly dancing!
gah! i became so shy after i got married to. it was so weird because i was so opposite of that before. now i find it so hard to go out of my comfort zone.
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